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Best. Friends. Ever.

The other thing I meant to mention when it came except the evil workplace was eating my brain is that the card from the Wedding Conspiricy came. There was a lovely bit of art from Seanan, and a list of names.

Thanks so much to Alan Thiesen, Alexa Klettner, Angie and Brittany, Blake Hodgetts, Chris Croughton, Chris Mangum, The Contabile Fortean concom, Dave Alway, Dave Weingart, Debbie Ohi, DJ Bass, Erica Neely, Greg and Maya McMullen, Gwen Knighton and Joe Raftery, Jessica Prett, Jonathan Lennox and Merav Hoffman, Joshua Kronengold, Katy Dröge, Leah Smith, Lisa Ellis, Margaret Middleton, Marilisa Valtazanou, Marion Beet, Mary Bertke, Mary Crowell, Maya Amis, Bruce Adhelsohn and family, Mia Sherman, Mich Sampson, Ny Martin, Paul Estin, Phil and Lissa Allcock, The Quinze concom, Rick Hewitt, Rika Körte, Robert and Janet Maughan, Seanan McGuire, Shaya, Sherman Dorn, Terence Chua, and Valarie Housden…

And most especially thanks to our dear Naomi, who conceived of this crazy project and made it happen.

We have the bestest friends in the world.


So, there I went disappearin’ again. Sometimes, I don’t update often because I haven’t got anything to say. Other times, not so much. The longer I let things go, the more I feel like I have to write a book to catch up, which triggers my avoidant tendancies. So I’m not gonna write about the family reunion trip way back in July, or going up to the North Georgia Celtic Festival on August 1. Those links have pictures go, so that’s worth a few thousand words.

August 6th is the day most of you want to hear about. That’s the day that kitanzi and I went down to the Fulton County courthouse to get married, with maedbh7 and telynor along to witness the affair.

The ceremony itself was a bit surreal. We wanted this to be as low-key as possible, in order to avoid the various headaches that proper weddings would entail, but even so, I was bemused at the process. We arrived downtown at a bit after noon, and well before the 2:30pm start time, so we wandered down into Underground Atlanta for some lunch at Mick’s. Fed and fortified, we made our way over to Pryor Street and up to the second floor. There was almost a problem over my camera, since it could be used as a recording device, which aren’t allowed in the courthouse as a rule, but they let me keep it.

We waited outside the courtroom with a few other couples who had shown up. there were only about 8 folks waiting outside, so at first I thought this was going to be a small and quick affair. But once the doors opened, people kept filing in. And filing in. And filing in. They eventually moved the spectators over to the Jury box as all the benches were full up with folks wanting to get married. Once everyone was seated, the Dour Bailiff and the Court Clerk went over the rules, and then had us all shuffle up to sign the register. kitanzi and I were couple 25, and somewhere in the middle, so there must have been 40-50 couples there.

Once we were all resituated, the judge came out and said a few words. At first, I was a bit alarmed that the couples themselves were going to be asked to say some words of their own, but thankfully, that wasn’t the case, or we might still be there. It still took a while, but kept ourselves entertained, between people watching, making faces at maedbh7 and telynor over in the jury box, and idle conversation. (Amusement for the polyfolk reading: While waiting to be called up, Kit turns to me and says, “So, are you and X ever going to have that date you keep getting put off?” “Dunno, depends on her schedule, doesn’t it?”)

At last, it was our turn. Being a civil ceremony, the vows were nice and simple: Do you, person1, take person2 to be your lawfully wedded husband|wife? I answered “Without hesitation”, and she said “absolutely”, and we went back to sit down. Once everyone had gone through this, rings were exchanged (though I still don’t have one…hard to find them in my size “off the rack”, and we can’t budget permenant custom rings until after Worldcon, but the ring we found for Kit looks wonderful on her finger.

And so we walked out into the Atlanta sun as husband and wife.

We had a thought to walk over to the Westin Peachtree for a drink in the skylounge, but telynor didn’t want to walk that far, so we headed instead up to Sandy Springs to browse about the Phoenix and Dragon bookstore, and then back up to the apartment briefly before heading out to dinner at Ichiban for habachi and sushi with maedbh7, telynor, tarkrai and his kids. T. and the kids were passing through town on the way back to Michigan from Florida, and unfortunately had to spend far more time here than they intended, due to some car troubles. But it was nice to see them the brief period that we did.

So there you have it, the tale of kitanzi and autographedcat and how they went and got themselves married on a Friday afternoon. Here’s some pictures. Y’all enjoy.

Several things making me happy today

First of all, happy birthday wishes to my partner-in-crime, fleetfootmike!

Second of all, I get to go pick up maedbh7 from the train station in about an hour!

Third of all, elynne pointed me at this lovely parody. (telynor will especially enjoy this one, I think.)

Fourth of all, I’m getting married tomorrow! Wheee!


We have the bestest friends.

Falling Into a Black Hole

That’s what I seem to have done this month. I had mean to write a bit about the family reunion back on July 4th, and about playing City Of Heroes and about myriad other things that have been going on, but I really just have been in “avoidance” mode lately, and I’m not sure why.

Not just avoiding here, either. I was politely informed by a mutual friend that someone I love deeply thought I was neglecting her becuase I had been so out of touch. The last two weeks, especially, I’ve been in a bit of a funk, and mostly being antisocial.

So, apologies on the absense. I’ll try and be here more.

Yesterday turned into an unexpectedly busy day. I was on my way back from our data centre where I was reinstalling the OS on a server, when I got a call from kitanzi indicating that she found out if we wanted to get married next friday at the courthouse, we had to have our license arranged at least 24 hours *before*. So I took a long lunch and we ran down to the courthouse to file for that. We now have a marriage license, and on August 6th, at approximately 2:30pm, we will officially be married.

Picked up telynor from the train station after work, and got her safely to our home. We’ll have her as a guest for a few days. It’s really lovely to see her.

I started this entry with a notion to say something or another, but I appear to just be rambling, so I’ll sign off now. Hope all of you are wonderful!

Evolving plans

So, since we announced our marriage plans on Saturday, we’ve been overwhlmed with all the wonderful well-wishes. Thank you all again so much.

To that end, we’ve been thinking a lot about the actual logistics of getting folks together to celebrate this (oh, my head…) and the realization that too many of the people we love are just too scattered for one celebration to be enough. Since we’re hardly traditionalists, we’ve decided that rather than one big blow-out in Atlanta, we’ll have a series of celebrations. instead.

The actual civil ceremony will take place somewhere between August 6th and August 17th, while maedbh7 is visiting. (I really wish that tigerbright could be here too. Where ARE those teleporters?). This will probably be a mostly private affair.

The “Nuptialooza Tour” is shaping up as follows, so far:

  • Boston, MA – Sometime during Worldcon weekend
  • Atlanta, GA – Some weekend in September (to coincide with kitanzi‘s mom’s visit)
  • Columbus, OH – Late October during OVFF weekend (OVFF is the anniversary of when we got together in the first place, and we don’t want to lose the significance of that!)

In addition to that, we desperately want to add the following:

  • United Kingdom – February (to coincide with the UK filkcon)

I have to admit that at this point, the last one is going to be hostage to our finances, but we really do want to be able to be with our British family as well as our American one, so I hope we’ll find a way to make it over there in February!

We’re hoping that this will let us get the biggest possible number of the people who are important to us (which is to say: all of you!) while at the same time not completely breaking our budget (since we’re folding the out of town parties with trips we were already planning.)

We are also planning on sending out formal announcements via proper mail, so if I don’t already have contact information for you, please send it along to me when you can. 🙂

I’ll post more as the dust settles. 🙂 This is still (obviously) a work in progress!

Forthright, decisive, and above all, positive!

I’ll tell thee what, prince; a college of witcrackers cannot flout me out of my humour. Dost thou think I care for a satire or an epigram? No; if a man will be beaten with brains, a’ shall wear nothing handsome about him. In brief, since I do purpose to marry, I will think nothing to any purpose that the world can say against it; and therefore never flout at me for what I have said against it, for man is a giddy thing, and this is my conclusion.
–William Shakespeare

I had made a comment the other day that I had some personal stuff going on that we weren’t ready to talk about in public, but now we are. kitanzi posted this a bit ago, so you may have already heard this news, but for the portion of our friends that don’t overlap:

We haven’t set a date yet, but some time in August, kitanzi and I will be getting married. The actual wedding will likely be a small civil ceremony at a justice of the peace, but we’re figuring on having some sort of party or shindig shortly afterwards for people who would like to celebrate. Details will be sent out whenever we get them hammered out, and it will be in GA, but any of our friends who would like to come for this will be welcome and should please consider themselves invited!

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