I saw this great quote from Stephen Koontz, and it just made me think about the way I tend to fall in love.
“Maybe a guy could fall instantly in love, but I doubt it. I think love creeps over you like a warm feeling on a clear blue fall day. This person is in your thoughts most of the time-all of the time actually. You see her when you close your eyes, when you look off into the distance, when you pause from what you are doing and take adeep breath. You remember how her fingers felt when they touched you. The loved one becomes a part of you, the most important part. At least it is that way with me when I think of you.”
I once felt this way too. And then I had the misfortune to feel this way about someone who, well, didn’t feel that way about me.
“Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back. Don’t expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn’t be contented it grew in yours.”
Hard lesson learned. -H…
This is more or less the position I’m in with three other people in my life, all of whom I love dearly and all of whom I simply have to be content that they are close and dear friends.
And that’s OK. I found there was value in allowing my feelings towards them mature and grow into the shape they wanted to grow, without regard to whether there’d be some sort of relationship context for them to occur in. Love is never an obligation. Love is always a gift.
And sometimes it just sneaks up and pounces on you when you’re not looking… and you don’t even realize it’s happened for weeks.
Least that’s what happened to me and the guy I’ve been married to for the past 25 years.
Yup! It was really amusing after
and I got together at OVFF a couple of years ago to go back and re-read our ICQ logs of conversations with each other prior to that weekend. In hindsight, it was obvious how smitten we each were for the other, but neither of us had any idea it was a reciprocal desire or how much it was growing on each of our parts. Love’s funny that way.
Congratulations to you and yours on 25 years. May you enjoy many, many more!
hugs and happy new year!
Happy new year to you too!! May the next year bring you twice the joys and half the sorrows of the year before.
That’s so sweet! *hugs*
*hug* that’s lovely! thank you, it certainly some of my relationships,past and preset(although more present then ever befor:))
i personally have a very open view of love. i love my friends, my family, people i’ve never met, and people i only met for a moment. i care about then, even if only for a fleeting moment, but in that moment i love them so part of me will keep on loving them. even people i ‘hate’ or who annoy me i love. i woulden’t wast the emotion on them if i didn’t care for them in some way. the only two people i have ever felt like i hate are my mother and sister, and that is because those are the people i love in the most special way. in fact i have only ever been really really angry a small amount of timesand only three or four stand out, and that was with close friends and family.(i’m not including any fights with emily, who i think is the only person every to make me really really angry more then once, but that’s because sh’s the person closest to me)
This is lovely and true. Even for the one relationship that started with something pretty close to the “love at first sight” phenomenon, it still was also true. But then, I also think there is a difference between “falling/being in love” and “love”. *warm smile*
I think there’s a difference. I just don’t think it matters. 🙂 Love is love, in all it’s various shapes and incarnations.