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Day: February 10, 2012

If You Don’t Know The Thing You’re Dealing…

So here’s a question I put out there to my friends who have expertise with sexual health. (Or even just an opinion on the matter.)

A friend of mine is recently starting to become socially active, having become single a couple of years ago. He’s already involved in a casual friends-with-benefits relationship, and there’s something on his horizon that may be developing.

At some point, I recommended to him that as long as he’s dating, he should get an STD test periodically. Particularly if he’s going to be involved with more than one person at one time, I consider it an ethical responsibility. He agreed, and said that since he was already due for his annual physical, he’d ask them to run it at the same time.

Yesterday, he told me that he’d had that appointment, and that his doctor had refused to order the panel:

His rationale, insofar as I could read it, was “They aren’t reliable past the first ten minutes after you have them, so wait until you have a stable partner and then get tested together.

To which I said: “You should fire your doctor. That’s not only wrong, it’s completely irresponsible.”

This goes beyond my usual insistence that as the consumer, you have the right to have a say in setting your own health priorities. I’m flabbergasted that a doctor would, in 2012, tell a sexually active person that there’s no point in getting STD screening as a preventing measure.

Am I overreacting, or is this utterly bizarre?

Turning the second key…

So earlier, my darling kitanzi and I made an agreement. As she writes in her journal:

Ok, ACat and I have a deal. I will start posting again if he does, and vice versa – and I still don’t have much to say, but dammit, it’s a deal. I can’t guarantee it’s anything worth anyone reading, which is much of what’s kept me from posting, but hey – if you don’t like it, feel free to unfriend me. I promise not to hold a grudge.

So…. a post a week, at least, hopefully more. May be crap, may be trivial, may be something no one but me is interested in. Here’s a starter – ask me a question, any question. I will either tell the truth, or say something so outrageous it’s an obvious and hopefully entertaining lie. Hell, I dunno if anyone is even reading this any more. Say something? 🙂

I’m engaging this slightly differently from a technical standpoint. I will compose my posts on Dreamwidth and crosspost them to Livejournal. I don’t especially care where people actually respond to them, and I may leverage other tools to make it easier to share certain content as well.

But, by gosh, this is own. Acat+Kitanzi, the blogging team that brought you…..links to a giant potato head statue, and amusing essays about our wedding and honeymoon, and con reports and strange song lyrics. All that, and more, so watch this space.

Stealing from my lovely wife, let’s open the floor for questions. Ask me a question, any question at all. The floor is entirely open.

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